people who write sibling fic always make them too loving and i know bc I was in the grocery store with my mom and sis and my sister called me a pussy while my mom was standing Right There and my sis just went “say it. say it bitch. say it. i know you’re thinking it. go ahead. i dare you” because she knows how badly i wanted to say “you are what you eat”
There’s a common held belief that nonbinary Cafab folks are really just cis and influenced by gender roles, misogyny, and internalized misogyny. This is false and ultimately ends up throwing trans women under the bus. Being non-women, they likely actually benefit from gender roles and misogyny, and definitely do transmisogyny. Stating they can experience misogyny implies that misogyny is something that happens to afab people, not women, and implies that trans women’s experiences with misogyny are misdirected, when it’s the other way around.
Ok, this is nonsense. I identified as genderqueer for a year or so and currently identify as a gender non-conforming/butch lesbian. Guess what? I was treated exactly the same in both situations because I looked exactly the same. People who grabbed my ass in nightclubs did not care how I “identified”. People were confrontational with me because in addition to being gender non-conforming, I was also short and had soft features, both of which were due to the fact that I was FEMALE. I still feared walking alone late at night and continued to fear rape/violence from men (even when I was a “genderqueer”). I experienced misogyny as a feminine woman, I experienced misogyny as a “genderqueer” and I continue to experience misogyny as a butch woman.
Men are conditioned to see the female body as an object to fuck. If some asshole has dehumanized women to the point that he wants to hurt one, I guarantee that he does not give two fucks how that person identifies.
There’s so many people raving about that vaginal prosthetic from Ecprosthetics, when they don’t realize that
1) It’s way out of 90% of trans womyn’s price range. Trans men being men make much more than us and can easily get a high quality prosthetic like it’s nothing. This would take months or years of saving for the average trans girl.
2) Many of us are deterred from using these products as they’re associated with fetish purposes. Trans womyn are seen as sexual deviants and autogynephiles*, so many of us wouldn’t wear this no matter how much it’d help because we don’t want to be seen as fetishists.
3) Trans men have the option of simple budget packers that can cost as low as $5-10. We have one option that isn’t aimed at fetishists. The other not aimed at fetishists is like $800 and apparently a scam.
4) Even if we do go for the ones that are sold for fetish purposes? They’re still unbelievably expensive. The cheapest are ~$150 still.
*An autogynephile or fetishist (in this context) does not exist. There are only trans womyn who are struggling with their identity and sexuality.
Trans men have a huge privilege when it comes to prosthetics, and they need to realize that. Yet they’re silent. They’re just raving about how happy they are for us. Yes, it’s great these products are starting to actually exist, but they should upset they’re so out of reach.
I looked up those prosthetics and holy shit they’re terrifying. Disembodied vulvas. I hate men so much. Fucking perverts.
If you are a lesbian and you’re dating/fucking a trans man, even if he’s not transitioning, even if he came out to you after you started dating, even if he calls himself a “dysphoric female/lesbian”, you’re committing a horrid act of violence towards trans womyn. You are directly implying that lesbianism is about dating afab people and that trans women can’t at all or can only be lesbians under specific circumstances.
Either break up with the dude or call yourself a vaginophile.
- Transmisogynist - Vaginophile - pussy fetishist - transphobe - TERF - Someone who wants to see trans women dead - Someone who wants trans women assaulted and beat - A misogynist - Someone who wants trans women excluded from places they have a right to be
If your attraction to females doesn’t include trans females and includes males, including trans males, you’re not a lesbian.
Every time you talk about trans men in social justice activism or discussions, you’re taking up time that could be spent talking about trans women. Activism that helps trans womyn by centering them will also help trans men, probably even faster and better than it helps trans womyn. Don’t allow blood on your hands by centering men.
@transcynical I see you’ve been responding to this person a lot and a lot of people are trying to convince you that rad-trans-womyn is a troll, but my girlfriend and I are 90% sure that she’s actually one of my ex’s from way back, which is why she targeted me awhile back on here. (She chewed me out when she found out this blog is mine awhile back, and lives kinda close to me, and now when I see her in public every now and then she just glares at me.) She may be sarcastic to make people more angry sometimes, like with the volleyball dick post, but she’s very much serious at the heart of it and hold these beliefs. Could you reblog this since you have tons of radfem who follow you?
I’m not going to give her identity away because she’s the type who would legit try to take legal action against me, and I can’t risk changes considering I have ten charges on my record and if I get in ANY trouble again I go to jail as part of the agreement. She doesn’t have a Tumblr blog or much social media besides that blog and a Facebook she barely uses anyway.
When we she had really poor hygiene despite giving her access to hygiene supplies. She barely brushed her teeth and always smelled of body odor. (It got better when she got on hormones) Before she came out she always “jokingly” would say stuff about dressing her like a girl, and I would sometimes. She’s really into forced fem/sissification. It’s also super fucking weird because she’s pro-life (at least she was when we were dating), and when I thought I might be pregnant she freaked when I said I’d get an abortion.
She has a very irrational hatred of trans men, and once we were talking after she came out she said, “I’m really resentful of them because they have EVERYTHING I want. I know they have dysphoria like me, but I wish they could appreciate what they have.” She also has an irrational hatred of lesbians. She doesn’t pass, but doesn’t see why most aren’t into her.
One time years back when she was getting me alcohol (the only reason I stayed friends with her after breaking up) she said, “You’re going to be the first one to have dibs on my pussy post GRS!” I wasn’t even asked if I wanted to have sex with her post GRS.
She’s very mentally ill, so bad she’s on disability for it, so I’d honestly just ignore her and let her make shitty posts. When we dated there was NO convincing her of anything. She was never wrong. So you’re wasting your time arguing with her. She wants you to get angry and mad, because it makes her feel right.
Fuck off, Shyanna. You first choke down so many drugs that you killed our child, and now you’re a “bigender” TERF? You want a dick and cunt but to look like a woman and still consider yourself ~socially female~, really? That’s called fucking being cis and being an intersex fetishist. You’re also deeply fetishizing and romanticizing the experiences of trans womyn. I’m so disgusted I ever fucked your trans woman and intersex fetishizing, TERF ass. I could wash my clitty in the shower every day for the rest of my life and not feel clean. I feel for all the legit bigender people you’re shitting your rancid baby killing terf shit all over. Go to hell.
It’s all starting to make sense… the puzzle pieces are fitting…
Womyn go there to ESCAPE from men. The last thing they need is a creepy dude lying about being a chick amongst them. Go to a co-ed shelter or find another way to work out your problem, but stay. away. from. womyn’s. shelters.
Every time one of you enters a womyn’s shelter you’re taking up a space that could go to a trans womyn in need who CAN’T because you’re reinforcing the very much wrong idea that female = presence of a natal front hole. It sucks men don’t have shelters, but that isn’t my problem. You T bros make more money than trans womyn ever will. Figure something out. If you can stick together to oppress trans women then you can stick together to keep each other housed.
TERFS need to stay out of womyn’s shelters too IMO. Most of them are “dysphoric lesbians” (AKA straight men) now a days it seems, but even if they aren’t they’re a danger to womyn, especially the rare trans womyn who might be let in because they blend as cis well enough. All trans women deserve to be in womyn’s shelters. That includes pretransition trans women as well. Doesn’t matter if she’s 6 feet tall with linebacker shoulders and a beard. She’s a womyn, and cis womyn have no reason to be uncomfortable with another womyn’s presence except for violent transmisogyny.
Lesbians are straight men now! The logic is impeccable.
I consider any AFAB person who isn’t completely and fully in support with trans women a TWEF. If you support even the “littest” act of transmisogyny (all transmisogyny is huge and serious) you’re excluding trans womyn and have blood on your hands. End of story.
Think “biological sex” is real? Twef. Think trans womyn are male? Twef. Think trans womyn are “male socialized? Twef. Want “Female only” or “AFAB only” spaces? Twef. Don’t want to share a bathroom or locker room with a trans womyn? Twef. Don’t want to date a trans womyn because of her birth assignment? Twef. Don’t want to fuck a trans womyn solely because of the shape of her cunt? Twef. Don’t think trans womyn should be the leaders of feminism? Twef. Don’t think trans womyn’s voices are more important than yours? Twef. Say "male bodied”? Twef. Bring up chromosomes in a transmisogynist way? Twef. Don’t think trans womyn should be allowed in groups of cis female rape survivors? Twef. Think later transitioning trans womyn have “reaped a life of male privilege”? Twef. Think autogynephilia is ever real? Twef. Think non-transitioning trans womyn don’t experience misogyny? Twef. Think non-transitioning trans womyn benefit from male privilege? Twef, Think trans women have ever or will ever experience male privilege? Twef. Think non-transitioning trans womyn are “men who don’t want to be accountable for their privilege and oppression? Twef. Think reproductive rights discussions shouldn’t involve trans womyn? Twef, Think trans womyn shouldn’t have an opinion on abortion? Twef,
There’s plenty more, but if you do or think anything on this list YOU ARE A TWEF!
The word female should be done away with. It will always stand to exclude trans women. It will always have the association of being first and foremost of the “female sex,” another fallacy used to oppress and exclude trans womyn.
Call us girls, call us ladies, call us women, but don’t call us female.
Me being “transphobic”: sex involves sexual organs, and it’s absurd to ask people to dismiss that in order to seem progressive.
Liberals not being homophobic: same sex attraction makes me uncomfortable. You guys are nasty ass scum obsessed with genitals. Genitals are the only thing you care about in a partner.have y'all even heard of the HEART? Anyways y'all need to unlearn your gross preference.
For people thinking this post is over the top and not true, see here:
I do not, as a female, have privilege over people who are not female. No female has privilege over someone who is not female on the basis of the fact that they are biologically female. Female people can experience privilege if we are white, heterosexual, able bodied, and so on, but we do not experience privilege as a result of the very thing we are oppressed for. To say we do is misogynistic and highly illogical.
You don’t know what someone’s gender is until they tell you, point blank… But we also need to realize that closeted trans womyn exist. I’d almost say we need to be less aggressive towards cis men, in case they’re closeted trans women or haven’t realized they are. The damage that can do to a trans womyn can be irreparable.
What an insidious MRA psyop couched in libfem rhetoric. Misogyny is evolving.
